With the Super Bowl on our minds, you are probably seeing a lot of talk about how to build a better man cave. In fact, we did one in this very space last week. But in the interest of equal opportunity escapism, we knew it was time to think outside the cave to a more beautiful, more elegant place. We’re talking about a spot more notable for heart and its art than the size of the big screen on the wall. Enter the Mom Cave. That’s right, a little nook where pretty is appreciated. Tell your man to cave down the street with his buddies.
Here are a few simple pieces to help you put together your Mom Cave:
Women and men are equal and all, but there are differences. Men love their big recliners with a drink holder built-in the arm rest and a remote control compartment within arm’s reach. For years women have fought the good fight against the traditional recliner, which they see as an eye-sore of the highest order. They see recliners as a place where elegance goes to die, along with an entire bag of chips.
While a recliner might be comfortable, women know there are seating options that look stylish and feel comfy all at the same time. Somebody has to keep an eye on style. It’s why your wedding wasn’t held at the local Buffalo Wild Wings. Still, we’re pretty sure with a little time on Pinterest, you could make that look good too. We digress. Think about a chaise lounge sofa. It’s the perfect spot to entertain multiple friends or to simply curl up into a ball in the corner when no one’s around.
You’re probably also going to need a table and a chair. Perhaps a desk set, or maybe something more customized to your tastes. This is where you’ll do your scrapbooking, where you’ll spread out your idea boards, or plot the family vacation down to the minute. But you’ll also have to make sure there is room left over to place your wine glass. More on that later.
To add a dash, or more than a dash, of color, consider an ottoman or a pouf. An ottoman is great for stretching your legs and storing your supplies, but it can also serve as extra seating in a pinch. Poufs are fun to look at, and even more fun to say. Pouf. Pouf. Pouf. See what we mean?
And by art, we don’t mean a giant poster of Aaron Rodgers. But hey, it’s your lounge. Whatever you’re in to. We really mean pretty pictures, in beautiful frames that tell the story of you or inspire you. Art can be emotional, inspiration, evocative. You want all that in your lounge. Because the term lounge is a bit of a misnomer. You’re not much for lounging anyway. You’re about getting stuff done, and even when you’re “resting” you’re mind is never truly at rest.
Throws and pillows are soft, fluffy and colorful. They’re both nice to look at nice and to cuddle up next to. Another difference between men and women: While men like to stretch out in their chair or on the couch, women can often be found all wound up in a pillows and throws, using only a fraction of the sofa or chair, no matter how much surface area it has.
The last thing a lady wants to do when they unfurl from their blanket and pillow fort is to step down on a cold, hard floor. That’s where the accent or throw rugs come in. They tie the room together and add texture and style to any space. They’re so soft, ladies might be tempted to add them to their pillow and throw fort. Alas, those rugs are made for walkin’, and that’s just what you’ll do.
Closets and shelves
When a lady says she wants a lounge, what she’s really telling you is she wants her very own dressing room – with the red M&Ms picked out by hand and with a never-ending supply of Fiji Water on hand. But in the absence of those luxuries, you’ll settle for a closets and shelves everywhere. You can’t have enough places to hang things and enough shoe cubbies.
Of course, you’d love to have these conveniences built into your home, but some of us must settle for less. There are kids to think of, husbands to support. A wholesale remodel is probably not in the cards (playing card is another fine use for your table by the way). Instead, you may have to buy shelving units cubbies, garment racks and wardrobes. In fact, maybe you can forget about the wall art. Just line these babies up and down the walls of the room. Your clothes and shoes are art. Show ‘em off.
Last but not least. You must account for booze storage, or to sound more lady-like, your wine refrigerator. We’re not saying you need a drink, but the option is always nice. From cabernets to pinot noirs, some wines are better chilled. The other alcohol you can stow in the ottoman. Because let’s face it, a glass of wine in your hand is the very best accessory.
Your Mom Cave is going to draw raves. Now all it needs is you. So carve our a little time for yourself and enjoy your special space. This time away will make you a better mom, a more loving partner, and it might just save your sanity.